Parents,
Tonight was a very smooth night for the teens. A little bit sad in that we talked about there being two sessions left, but we planned out the next two sessions out as a group and I think they’re going to have a nice time. Next meeting, we’re going to be having miniature golf, arcade and then walk for about fifteen minutes and go to the Galleria for dinner so you’ll be dropping them off at one place and you’ll be picking them up at another place. Stay tuned because we’ll send you a flyer on that next week. Then for our final meeting they decided and it was EF who suggested it that we go to the park. She said that hadn’t happened and she really wanted to do that. The group agreed with her and so we’ll going to go to the park and then go to California Pizza Kitchen and we will meet back at Gelson’s as per usual to say goodbye to everyone. So there we have it, what’s going to happen later this month and in early June. Don’t forget that there will be a parent dinner on June 1, Tuesday. Please call in and make your reservations for this.
So tonight, it was really about socializing and tolerance. We did a barbecue and so they shopped for their barbecue. Rather than doing steaks, hotdogs and other things, we just got hot dogs for everyone and that worked more smoothly. They socialized, they appeared to enjoy socializing, and we had three kinds of raffles. There was the blue ticket raffle, there was the hero ticket raffle where eight kids had a chance to win, and there was the LUNCH points raffle and two prizes were handed out for that. There was a parent’s meeting as well and what was impressive was how quietly and respectively the kids came in when they either needed water or to use the restroom.
The parent meeting in itself was nice in that there weren’t a lot of questions about generalization, but there were questions more about “What do I do with my child when they’re no longer coming to this group?” and this is very relevant and sometimes hard to answer, but parents talked about community services through organizations like J Nolan and about some of the things that their kids are doing where they’re getting out into the community more. One father (KV’s) talked about how his son is calling other kids and that was impressive. All in all, they were well-behaved, they helped set up chairs, they helped clean up, and it was a well rounded evening. One final thing we talked about was what to do with kids who are more isolated and this is hard because it seems to be a blend of how much they feel attachment to others and how much anxiety they experience and how competent they feel in having conversations. This is something that requires continued focus on the part of parents and my take is to have your kids immerse in different social situations so it gradually can become more comfortable. But that’s about it for tonight parents. I will look forward to seeing your kids in two weeks as we continue the winding down process. Thanks.
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Thursday, April 22, 2010
School Year Teen 09-10 - Session 12
Hi, Parents:
Well, we are getting down to the wire, and I can feel it. . Tonight, we did an activity that made me realize how far some of your kids have come. It showed up in how they thought and what they had to say.
We began the group with 15 teens, and Sophie came tonight. She was a hit, as usual. And, in fact, I showed them a 3 minutes video that I had made with her starring." They are encouraging me to put on YouTube. We will see...
Anyway, they were engaged in their typical magazine reading at first, which gave way to conversations and more conversations. Really, that was the theme of the entire evening. Five of them had LUNCH Points and participated in a somewhat unusual LUNCH Points raffle. I started off by picking a number and then having them add the first two letters of their first name together to form a number. So, if somebody’s name was “Abe,” the A and the B would form the number 3. One student won that way. Then, for the second raffle, I had them listen to one of my favorite musicians and guess the person’s first name. Whoever came closest also won. Doing things in this manner forces them to attend and maintain cognitive flexibility. Since most, but not all win, it gives them yet another chance to handle disappointment without losing control or making it too much of a "big deal."
After the raffle, we headed out for Uncle Chen’s for Chinese food. Many of your kids tried new items. Some wanted Hero Tickets, and some got Hero Tickets. It was particularly impressive to watch EF try chicken with lemon on it. Her conclusion was that it was the lemon part that was unhealthy, but the fried chicken part was okay.
Other group members showed thoughtfulness and consideration as they passed things to one another. We did our usual working on manners, as well as just general social behavior, and not letting the volume get too loud during mealtime. Having said that, it really never got too loud; they were just enjoying themselves. None of them were raucous, but rather they were just teenagers having a good time. A group of women (it always seems to be a group of women.) were seated outside of our room. They asked what the special event was, and looked a little puzzled when I said it was just a group of teenagers getting together for dinner.
The kids ate and ate, but they didn’t stuff themselves. They had wor won ton soup, spare ribs, shrimp in lobster sauce, beef with noodles, chicken with noodles, tangerine chicken, egg rolls, and, of course, fortune cookies. Believe it or not, despite the number of dishes on the table, there wasn’t much left when they finished.
During this time I asked your kids what they liked or didn't like about the group. The majority of teens who had have been attending group for a longer period of time expressed themselves in a thoughtful manner and seemed more mature in how they responded.
We finished up and headed back with a couple of kids picking up their backpacks on the way. We also voted on what we wanted to do for our final outing, which will occur the third week in May. After choosing between the mall, which a few wanted, a picnic, (Only CP wanted that one, but he really wanted it.), laser tag, and miniature golf plus arcade, it came down to between laser tag and miniature golf/arcade. We did a runoff vote, and, by a verdict of three to two, they decided on going to miniature golf/arcade. So, we have a new activity to plan which will be at Castle Park.
So, that’s about it for now. We are in a winding down process. And thanks so much for having such great kids. See you next time.
Well, we are getting down to the wire, and I can feel it. . Tonight, we did an activity that made me realize how far some of your kids have come. It showed up in how they thought and what they had to say.
We began the group with 15 teens, and Sophie came tonight. She was a hit, as usual. And, in fact, I showed them a 3 minutes video that I had made with her starring." They are encouraging me to put on YouTube. We will see...
Anyway, they were engaged in their typical magazine reading at first, which gave way to conversations and more conversations. Really, that was the theme of the entire evening. Five of them had LUNCH Points and participated in a somewhat unusual LUNCH Points raffle. I started off by picking a number and then having them add the first two letters of their first name together to form a number. So, if somebody’s name was “Abe,” the A and the B would form the number 3. One student won that way. Then, for the second raffle, I had them listen to one of my favorite musicians and guess the person’s first name. Whoever came closest also won. Doing things in this manner forces them to attend and maintain cognitive flexibility. Since most, but not all win, it gives them yet another chance to handle disappointment without losing control or making it too much of a "big deal."
After the raffle, we headed out for Uncle Chen’s for Chinese food. Many of your kids tried new items. Some wanted Hero Tickets, and some got Hero Tickets. It was particularly impressive to watch EF try chicken with lemon on it. Her conclusion was that it was the lemon part that was unhealthy, but the fried chicken part was okay.
Other group members showed thoughtfulness and consideration as they passed things to one another. We did our usual working on manners, as well as just general social behavior, and not letting the volume get too loud during mealtime. Having said that, it really never got too loud; they were just enjoying themselves. None of them were raucous, but rather they were just teenagers having a good time. A group of women (it always seems to be a group of women.) were seated outside of our room. They asked what the special event was, and looked a little puzzled when I said it was just a group of teenagers getting together for dinner.
The kids ate and ate, but they didn’t stuff themselves. They had wor won ton soup, spare ribs, shrimp in lobster sauce, beef with noodles, chicken with noodles, tangerine chicken, egg rolls, and, of course, fortune cookies. Believe it or not, despite the number of dishes on the table, there wasn’t much left when they finished.
During this time I asked your kids what they liked or didn't like about the group. The majority of teens who had have been attending group for a longer period of time expressed themselves in a thoughtful manner and seemed more mature in how they responded.
We finished up and headed back with a couple of kids picking up their backpacks on the way. We also voted on what we wanted to do for our final outing, which will occur the third week in May. After choosing between the mall, which a few wanted, a picnic, (Only CP wanted that one, but he really wanted it.), laser tag, and miniature golf plus arcade, it came down to between laser tag and miniature golf/arcade. We did a runoff vote, and, by a verdict of three to two, they decided on going to miniature golf/arcade. So, we have a new activity to plan which will be at Castle Park.
So, that’s about it for now. We are in a winding down process. And thanks so much for having such great kids. See you next time.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
School Year Teens 09-10 - Session 11
Hi, Parents:
Tonight went quite smoothly. First of all, we had a new group member, (IL) and I am pleased to say that he fit into group quite easily. No matter when I looked, other members were engaging with him, and vice versa. In fact, the majority of the group members were engaged with one another tonight, and that was simply just very nice to see.
The evening began by me talking to them and laying out what we were going to do tonight, which involved an outdoor activity, involving games of either Bananagrams or Guess Who. In addition to that, many of the teens who had previously done the video had an opportunity to improve their performance, and about five of them took me up on that offer. I am pleased to say that all five of them were able to look at little bits of what they did before and improve their performance.
I previously told you that I don’t show the group members elements of their negative behaviors, and I want to make a distinction. I wasn’t showing them negative behaviors, but rather a specific behavior that I wanted them to improve, and I tried to only show them enough of it so they could just see what the specific behavior was. For example, one student, CE, did a wonderful job but didn’t end his sentences by lowering his voice. This made it appear as though he was stopping in mid-sentence, even though he wasn’t. He had an opportunity to work on that, and it was hard for him to follow the structured format that we set up. However, he persevered and did so, and then seemed quite proud of his performance. Similarly, the other participants who did re-takes or did it for the first time also really took it seriously, and it was nice to see their outcomes. This included CP, GS and IL.
After we concluded this and the games tournament, we all went to Baja Fresh for dinner, where they naturally congregated in groups of threes and fours. Ordering went smoothly, and no problems occurred during group. At the end, we had a surprise LUNCH Points raffle, and there were a total of six participants. We allowed IL to earn one LUNCH Points certificate because it was his first group, as a way of not excluding him, since he had not had a prior opportunity. The group ended with dessert, where we had promised them last time, at the end of Japanese food, that they would have mochi, and they had green tea, strawberry and chocolate.
So, all in all, it was a pretty action-packed group. See you in two weeks.
Tonight went quite smoothly. First of all, we had a new group member, (IL) and I am pleased to say that he fit into group quite easily. No matter when I looked, other members were engaging with him, and vice versa. In fact, the majority of the group members were engaged with one another tonight, and that was simply just very nice to see.
The evening began by me talking to them and laying out what we were going to do tonight, which involved an outdoor activity, involving games of either Bananagrams or Guess Who. In addition to that, many of the teens who had previously done the video had an opportunity to improve their performance, and about five of them took me up on that offer. I am pleased to say that all five of them were able to look at little bits of what they did before and improve their performance.
I previously told you that I don’t show the group members elements of their negative behaviors, and I want to make a distinction. I wasn’t showing them negative behaviors, but rather a specific behavior that I wanted them to improve, and I tried to only show them enough of it so they could just see what the specific behavior was. For example, one student, CE, did a wonderful job but didn’t end his sentences by lowering his voice. This made it appear as though he was stopping in mid-sentence, even though he wasn’t. He had an opportunity to work on that, and it was hard for him to follow the structured format that we set up. However, he persevered and did so, and then seemed quite proud of his performance. Similarly, the other participants who did re-takes or did it for the first time also really took it seriously, and it was nice to see their outcomes. This included CP, GS and IL.
After we concluded this and the games tournament, we all went to Baja Fresh for dinner, where they naturally congregated in groups of threes and fours. Ordering went smoothly, and no problems occurred during group. At the end, we had a surprise LUNCH Points raffle, and there were a total of six participants. We allowed IL to earn one LUNCH Points certificate because it was his first group, as a way of not excluding him, since he had not had a prior opportunity. The group ended with dessert, where we had promised them last time, at the end of Japanese food, that they would have mochi, and they had green tea, strawberry and chocolate.
So, all in all, it was a pretty action-packed group. See you in two weeks.
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